Thursday, October 13, 2011

Timely poem

I can't remember where I ran across this today but it is so appropriate to my life and my future daughter's. We are moving along with visits. M is a beautiful, sweet, funny girl and Sean and I already see her as ours. We have two more weekends of visits and then an overnight. We are super busy so I'll update when I can. I'll have to be vague to protect M but I'll let you ladies know how we are doing. In the meantime enjoy this powerful poem.

Learn With Every Goodbye
– Veronica A Shoffstall

After a while, you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child,
And learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight
And after a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure…
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn
and learn…
With every goodbye, you learn.


  1. I am excited that things are progressing smoothly so far. Thank you for sharing the poem, too. I am sending my best wishes for the remainder of the visits and the overnight.

  2. It's beautiful poem. Good to hear that things are going well with getting to know M.

  3. I had this poem on my wall in college. I haven't seen it in so many years. Wow, it has a different meaning to me now. Thank you for posting it.